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19 Helpful Tips to Raise Responsible Kids

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Are you looking for tips to raise responsible kids? This article will have helpful ideas to assist you in your journey. Some things your child will learn:

  • Help your child to learn to do tasks by themselves
  • Make good decisions 
  • Be accountable for their actions

You will need to continue reinforcing these values as they grow older. The result, we hope, will be responsible adults. 

The Importance of Responsibility

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As any parent knows, raising a child is a big responsibility.

  • From the early years, when you are teaching them to brush their teeth and put on their shoes
  • To the teenage years. When you are helping them navigate the pressures of school and social life
  • Every stage of childhood presents new challenges.

Responsibility is one of the most important things you can teach your child. This can involve helping them:

  • Develop a bedtime routine
  • Teaching them time management skills
  • Getting them into the habit of doing chores daily

My goal with my girls is for them to be independent and successful adults. That’s what motivates me to help them learn responsibility.

19 Helpful Tips to Raise Responsible Kids

Have Your Child Help With Household Chores

mom helping little girl clean windows

A great way to teach kids responsibility is to give them household chores. Be sure they are age appropriate.

  • Children from a young age can have chores to do. Of course, I try to do this according to their own ability.
  • Older children can increase their responsibilities.
  • Let your children help with chores. It gives them a sense of ownership and pride in their home.
  • Explain why the task is necessary when you assign it.
  • Let your child choose the daily chores they would like to take on. This will give them a sense of control.
  • Also, praise kids when they do a good job. Offer encouragement when they face challenges.
  • Chore charts are beneficial as well. Here is a FREE printable chore chart you can print out for your child.

Let Your Children Help You Around the House

Have your child do extra work around the house. This is a little different from their regular chores.

For example, asking your child to clean their room is hard when it is a mess. It is a better approach to offer to clean the room with them.

You can use this as a time to teach them how to organize. They can learn the concept that “many hands make light work.”

There is a time for them to do a chore alone. But you and your child can knock it out fast and help them learn to do things correctly.

Help Your Child Learn the Consequences of Their Actions

Look for ways to teach your child the consequences of their actions. And to also learn to make good choices. I learned the following example from

It is cold outside, and your child resists wearing a jacket. Explain to them that they will get cold and sick if they don’t wear a coat.

If they still don’t want to wear the jacket, suggest a compromise. You can recommend they bring their coat with them, and they will have it when they feel cold.

Getting sick or being cold for not wearing a jacket is a good lesson.

I’m not sure if I would risk my child getting sick like that. But it’s helpful to learn to think of ways to teach our kids these concepts.

Start small and reinforce natural consequences for your child’s actions. They will learn and may avoid hard lessons later.

Teach Your Children to Clean Up Their Own Messes

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As a parent, I find myself cleaning up after my young children all the time. It’s just easier to do it myself. But doing everything for them can prevent them from learning to be responsible. I’m learning!

When your kids leave their toys on the floor, they don’t have consequences. As a result, they don’t learn to take responsibility for their actions.

Of course, you should not expect your kids to be perfect. But they need to learn to be accountable for their actions. You can start with something small like picking up their toys.

Plus, you’ll teach them life skills they’ll use long after leaving the nest.

Encourage Your Child to Learn a New Skill

Try learning new skills with your child. This is a great way to encourage responsibility. For example, you can start a garden with your kids. Show them how to care for the plants as you work together.

They will understand the importance of caring for something. And learning to be consistent with their efforts. A few tasks your children can learn as they grow older are:

  • Help mow the lawn
  • Change a tire on the car
  • Cook a meal for your family

Talk to your children and see what interests them. This will give you ideas to help them learn new skills. Some ideas to get you thinking are:

  • Check out books from the library and notice what they like
  • Take them to various musical recitals and performances
  • Attend sporting events
  • Try different crafts and art project to see what they are good at

Learning new skills helps develop pride and confidence. And this will help them understand the value of responsibility. And that’s a lesson that will serve them well into adulthood.

Encourage Your Child to Work Hard

child mowing the lawn

Teach your children the value of hard work. Many times things are given to kids without having to work for them.

As a result, they don’t learn the importance of effort and grit. You can do a few things to instill these values in your children:

  • Give your child chores to do. Doing chores gives your kids a sense of responsibility. And helps them to understand that work is not optional.
  • Praise their efforts when they complete a task, even if it’s not perfect. Praising your child’s efforts will show them that you appreciate their hard work. And it will encourage them to keep trying.
  • Let your child see you lead by example. Working hard on something important to you is a great way to do this.

Teaching your children to work hard will set them up for success in life.

Limit Social Media

Limiting how much time your child spends online is important. Don’t you agree? Encourage your child to balance their screen time with other screen-free activities.

Having social media guidelines to follow is helpful. Your child will develop self-discipline and learn to be responsible this way.

In addition, how you handle social media is important. They will learn by example by watching you. Ouch! That just convicted me!

Learn Basic Life Skills

Begin a systematic plan to teach your child basic life skills. Begin as early as possible. Your kids will build confidence with all the skills they are learning.

This is a helpful guide to teach your child basic skills by age!

Look For Ways to Teach Your Children to Help Others

boy and girls help with neighbor's dog

Teaching your kids to help others can help your kids learn responsibility. Children need to see how their actions affect others. Helping others can:

  • Help children become more mindful and considerate.
  • Provide opportunities for children to practice self-control and patience.
  • Develop the skills needed to do well in school as they learn to think of others.
  • Develop more self-esteem and empathy.

Look for opportunities to help others in your church or community. Some examples are: 

  • Assisting in a soup kitchen as a whole family
  • Helping with lawn care for a shut-in
  • Making cookies for a neighbor
  • Bringing a meal to a sick family 
  • Helping take care of a neighbor’s dog

When you teach your child to help others, they become responsible, caring adults. And they will learn to have a positive impact on the world!

Establish a Consistent Routine

Consistent routines are a great way to teach responsibility. Children need to know what we expect of them. Then they will be more likely to meet those expectations.

There will be times your schedule is not the same, but strive for consistent routines.

Help Your Child Work Through Emotions

mom helping daughter work through emotions

Our emotions play an important role in how we learn responsibility. When we’re feeling good, we’re more likely to be open to new experiences. And then be willing to step out of our comfort zones.

We’re more likely to be patient and to persevere when things get tough. But when we’re feeling down, we’re more likely to give up. And more likely to avoid new challenges.

Our children mirror our emotional state. So it is important to model positive emotions in front of our kids. We can do this by:

  • Staying calm when things go wrong.
  • Celebrating our successes with our kids.
  • Allowing ourselves to feel our emotions without judgment.

As our children see us managing our emotions well, they’ll emulate our behavior. This will help them learn how to take responsibility for their own emotions.

Paying an Allowance to Learn to Make Responsible Choices

One important life lesson that every child should learn is how to manage money. Consider giving your child a weekly allowance. This is a great way to teach them financial responsibility.

Your child can learn:

  • How to budget and wisely spend their money.
  • Save their money for toys or games they want.
  • Understand the importance of savings. Match what they put into their savings account.

Teach your child these money concepts when they are young. This will set them up for success later in life.

Pay Your Child For Extra Chores Around the House

You can do this by paying them money for extra chores around the house. This would be in addition to their weekly allowance.

Different tasks would include things like washing the car or raking the lawn. They will learn the value of work. And help them understand the concept of earning an income.

Of course, it’s essential to set some ground rules first. For example, your child must finish their chores before earning money for extra ones.

You can also set a limit on how much they can make each week. Once they’ve earned their money, they can use it to buy things they want or need.

When your child earns their own money, they will learn the value of it. And they will learn how to budget and save for something they want.

Try to Let Your Child Handle Their Problems

Try letting your older kids handle their own problems. This is one of the best ways to teach them responsibility. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t offer guidance or help them.

But you can let them figure out how to solve their own problems. Let your child knows it’s okay to make mistakes.

And they need to know that everybody makes mistakes. Help them devise a solution, and then let them try it out. If it doesn’t work, they can always try again.

Your child’s high school years are an excellent time to let them learn to solve their own problems. Especially before they get into the real world.

Use a Planner to Manage Your Child’s Schedule

boy and girl with daily planners

Try using a planner to help manage your child’s schedule. This is a great way to help your child develop responsibility.

Planners will allow them to learn how to balance their time. Kids must balance:

  • school
  • homework
  • extracurricular activities
  • leisure time

They will also learn how to focus on their tasks and manage their own time. It’s important to provide support as they learn to use the planner.

Taking responsibility for their own schedules is important. It will help them become independent adults.

Here are a variety of FREE daily planner pages you can download! Choose which one your child might like, and make as many copies as you wish.

Teach Your Child That It’s Okay to Be Different

It is so important for your children to know that being different is okay. Differences are what make us uniquely us, after all.

When you allow your child to be themselves, they’ll learn to take pride in who they are. They’ll learn to be more accepting of others. Even if they don’t necessarily agree.

Your child will become a more well-rounded and responsible person. The next time your child wants to express their individuality, don’t try to squelch it. Encourage it instead!

It just might make the world a better place.

Your home with its loving family members is the perfect place for your kids to experience unconditional love. And to be accepted for who they are.

Make Work and Learning New Things Fun

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One way to make work fun is by turning household chores into a game. See who can pick up the most toys in five minutes. Or put away the laundry the fastest.

You can turn learning into a competition. Who can read the most books in a week or do the most math problems in five minutes?

Make work and learning fun. It helps your child see that this can be enjoyable and rewarding. At the same time, you’ll be teaching them essential life skills they’ll use for years.

Teach Your Child to Learn to Think Through Situations and Problems

It is important to teach your child to think independently and solve problems. A few ways to do this :

  1. Ask an open-ended question that needs more than a yes or no answer. 
  2. Encourage them to explain their reasoning when they make decisions. 
  3. Praise their efforts when they devise creative solutions to problems. 

Taking these steps will develop the critical thinking skills they need to succeed in school.

Keep Our Word as a Parent and Model Responsibility Ourselves

We play an important role in teaching our children responsibility. Keeping our word and modeling responsibility is important.

We need to be sure to follow through if we say we will do something. This shows our kids that we can be counted on and are reliable.

Let your child see you: 

  • Paying bills on time
  • Exercising and eating healthy
  • Taking care of your belongings

Our children will learn a lot as they watch us manage our responsibilities. We can help our children become responsible adults by being patient and consistent.

young girl making her bed

Final Thoughts

It can be challenging to raise responsible kids, but it’s worth it. These 19 tips should help you get started.

*Celebrate each accomplishment, no matter how small.*

You can create a home where responsibility is nurtured and encouraged. You are raising wonderful humans!

What are your best tips for raising responsible kids? Let us know in the comments!

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